Trust is such an interesting concept when it comes to trading or anything in life... The idea that it can take a lifetime to gain one's trust and a moment to lose it forever is wild. Why are we like this? More importantly, why don't we trust ourselves? Why do we seek validation and answers from others? Why can't we "trust" ourselves enough to know that we have the answer inside of us? I will be breaking down all of these questions today so let's have some fun.
I've been thinking about this a lot lately. Much more as it pertains to trading & advancement within our craft. Trading, however, is a very tricky business. We can work for years trying to build our account and then a couple of slip-ups later we don't know how we got there. We don't "Trust" ourselves any more. We failed to take profits or we chased one trade too many and all our profits are gone. More importantly, all of our confidence in ourselves is gone... This often leads down the rabbit hole of not being able to place the trades we want. So what really happens? Why do we fail to trust ourselves anymore?
I can't speak much on the psychology of trust but I'm sure there are mountains of data and books written that can really bring this point home. (Will expand on this later upon conducting more research)
I will however harp on the idea of humans being creatures of (Energy + Thinking). What we give attention to creates action within the Universe. We think XYZ then guess what much of your life starts to unfold like XYZ. The energy we give towards whatever it is that we are thinking shapes the exterior world we begin to live in. This stuff is truly fascinating as it happens so subtly without us even knowing we are doing it. Look at someone across the street and immediately judge them. You either want to be their friend or you try everything in your power to avoid them completely. If a friend does something that breaks your trust, you immediately hold negative energy towards them and that leads to "hate". You might hold this negative resistance in your mind for the rest of your life. A stock goes red and you lose money, you blame the CEO, Twitter and stock. You have created resistance in your life all the while almost all of these people or stocks haven't given a literal ounce of energy to think about how "You" feel.
So let's factor this into trading... There you are having made some incredible trades for a couple of months and all of a sudden BOOM you take a big loss. You start to rationalize XYZ and why it had to happen to you. Maybe you bought too soon, your stop loss was too tight, you didn't lock in gains, and it fully circled on you and now you are red holding a bag. Well, there you are giving that "loss" energy. It starts to form resistance in your head. So what happens on your next trade? You are likely thinking about the last trade being a loser and guess what the same thing happens. You broke some rule or didn't take gains or traded some stock you really didn't need to and BANG another loss. So here we are 2/2 on negative trades. Let's jump forward a week as we've had the weekend to recover... All weekend you analyzed what went wrong and how you can fix it. I will be more patient, I will do this or that. You have your trade you like and you buy it... BANG halted down. "WTF just happened as you scramble to recover and gain composer" In seconds your idea is out the window. You know start to look inwardly. What is wrong with me? And well the wheels are no longer on the track and you have entered a very very tricky spot. VERY TRICKY WHEN WE QUESTION OURSELVES. Very careful of how you view yourself, how you speak to yourself, how you do everything. Remember we become our thoughts...
What makes this job so different than others is you must have the utmost confidence & trust in your ability to execute. There will be times of difficulty when everything you do seems to fall. But without fail, if you don't trust yourself and your ability to make money you have absolutely zero business trying to place trades. I can tell you one thing... Hope & Prayer is 100%, not a strategy that has any data points.
I could truly harp on this even more from a data perspective... Those who have yet to achieve their desired "Freedom" is simply from pure laziness to not do the work to collect the data to give yourself a high enough created trust for their trading system. But I won't get into that right now as I want to discuss "The Person" and how to overcome yourself.
There are actually many internal struggles that really need to be worked on. I highly highly recommend spending some time looking at Trauma & Fear with a Somatic Therapist first. We really don't realize how messed up we are at times.
Fear of failure
Fear of Success
Feeling Unworthy
Feeling/Fear of anything
We love to create an image in our heads of who we are... Did you read that? CREATE... We create an image in our head and that becomes who we are for so long until we are unable to differentiate this created person from who we actually are. We must face the man in the mirror. We must be willing to go into the depths of hell and stare the devil in the face. But remember that devil is you. The only person who is creating trust or lack of trust is you. The power you give or don't give. The permission or invitation you give to yourself to step into your greatness or not. It was and always be... You
So as we move forward and try to gain "TRUST" in ourselves once again what does that look like? Well, it could be trading small & growing. It could be sticking to your guns on your ideas. I'm sure you have found yourself calling the most insane trades but failing to execute them properly right? Have you given yourself permission lately to be the best version of yourself or are we still stuck in old paradigms? Sometimes you need to change timelines, jump ship and alter the reality that you are currently in. This isn't hard but it does require a bit of work if you have never Transurfed before. Fear not it can happen
I know that I tend to ramble with all these thoughts but that is why you are here lol. Here is what I want you to do:
Give yourself permission to trust again
Stop creating Resistance
Fear of Failure
Fear of Success
Lacking of person in any way, shape or form
Everyday practice Rama Rama Rama
Trust that you have the answers. Trust that your thinking is correct
You are a divine being. The probability is mind-boggling that you are even here... Step into that greatness
Remember: At worst, you have to start over again with all the knowledge you now have so FUCK IT. POP THAT TOP, SEND IT
Sometimes we are early and we have to change course. Great, simply adjust whatever that means
Sometimes we are late and have to change course. Great, simply adjust whatever that means
Sometimes we are right on time and don't have to do anything.
Eventually, we would all love to get here but it takes deliberate practice. Daily, weekly, monthly... The Universe rarely screams at you but it does whisper. Make sure you take the time to listen for her words